back to me

(circa nov 2023)

name aurora, rory, caesthoffe
b-day 11 august 2003

origin renton, WA, U.S.A
pronouns they/it/neos
gender non-binary
orientation aromantic allosexual, marsic/viramoric

[inspired by my neocities mutual Devil and his 'opinions' page]
if you ask me any questions about whatever new leftist and/or queer discourse going around, this tumblr post will most likely apply. not always, but most likely. but in case you're curious about my thoughts on x, and don't feel like scouring every single social media i own, please read on.

My opinions on...

kink/porn/fetishes/sex in general:

  • the porn industry can be very exploitative and often stereotypical and harmful.
  • sex workers deserve respect, a safe way to do their jobs, and a space in feminist discussions. asexual advocacy and pro-sex/anti-puritanical beliefs can coexist.
  • sex without feelings is not inherently exploitative. you do not need sex to have a fulfilling life.
  • you have to be normal about kinks/fetishes that don't permanently harm anyone (yes, even the ones you think are weird). having a consensual non-consent kink is not the same as the real crime of rape.
  • zoophiles/pedophiles are NOT welcome in kink/fetish communities

queerness:

  • trans men are men. trans women are women. enbies are real. trans men don't owe you masculinity, trans women don't owe you femininity, enbies don't owe you androgyny. trans men, trans women, and enbies should both be allowed to talk about their unique experiences without being seen as an attack on the other.
  • trans men often have to deal with misogyny and lesbophobia on top of regular transphobia and homophobia, and deserve spots in feminist discussions (including those around pregnancy, OBGYNs, abortions, misogyny, etc).
  • an identity flying "under the radar" in the mainstream is not privilege, it's the result of a lack of activism. being forced back into the closet is not a privilege either.
  • enbies are not "women-lite" and should not automatically be included in female spaces. "theyfab" is an enbyphobic term. AFAB and AMAB are useless terms that can be easily replaced, or simply not used when unneeded.
  • the use of terms such as pillow princesses, bottoms, twinks, and pegging as "punchlines" is just a subvertive way to call people faggots.
  • cishets being invited into queer spaces should recognize that they are guests in that space, and it is not meant to cater to them.
  • "love is love" is a terrible queer slogan, not only in its exclusion of aromantic people but also in its focus on who the individual loves rather than who they are.
  • pro-neopronouns. pro-contradictory labels. pro-kink at pride.

the internet and internet culture:

  • safe online spaces for kids AND online adult-only spaces are both simultaneously being destroyed by the modern capitalistic internet.
  • young kids should not have access to a phone but they SHOULD have access to a family computer.
  • censoring harsh language, including things like "grape" and "SA," are insulting and show that you would rather get a paycheck from Meta than treat these life-ruining crimes seriously.
  • its Twitter, not X
  • pro-piracy, pro-archivism. save the internet archive. fuck AI. fuck chatGPT. openAI killed SuchirBalaji. MIT killed Aaron Swartz.

favorite...

food/drink nongshim ramen, taco bell luxe box, eel/avocado sushi from my not-so-local-anymore sushi place, dr pepper, caramel shake from kitanda, pepsi...

music nu-metal, melodic hardcore, diy punk, folk punk, pop-punk, grunge, classic uk punk, alt-pop, indie rock, electronic rock, dad rock, myspace emo, comedy rock...

movies american psycho (2000), every spiderman movie, pulp fiction (1994), the SAW franchise, lady bird (2017), the minecraft movie (2025), dazed and confused (1993), 10 things i hate about you (1999)

tv it's always sunny in philadelphia, the whitest kids u know, smallville, moral orel, smiling friends, the eric andre show, beastars, the walking dead, death note, burn notice, friends, brooklyn 99...

books nevada by imogen binnie, the hate u give by angie thomas, serving the servant by danny goldberg, im glad my mom's dead by jennette mccurdy, almost perfect by brian katcher...

hobbies clothing alteration, fashion, html, painting, sketching, graffiti, shoplifting, blogging, guitar guitar GUITAR !!! journaling, collecting (cds, magazines, vinyls, plushies)...